Being a stay-at-home mom is a difficult task to do. There are times that your kids are having a hard time to understand you especially when you’re trying your best to discipline them. Sometimes it became emotions over conflicts. We need to resolve thoroughly each and every problem that we encountered at home so the relationship with our children will be constantly working. If you are in doubt of how you can manage conflicts with them, check out the helpful tips below:
Useful Tips to Handle Conflicts
- Calm down
Give everyone a chance to think better. Before attempting to resolve the problem, ask each of them what they need to do to calm down. You don’t need to be angry at them every time there are conflicts at home, it might cause them to hate you more. Offer some good choices like walking away and taking a break for a few minutes; counting to 10 or even 100 or writing down what they feel.
- Understand the problem. Once calm has prevailed, you can now ask them to state what the problem really is. When they are talking, just listen and try your best to control your emotion. Make them feel that you’re just one closer away from them and they can always count on you.
- Apologize well. Apologizing for a mistake might seem difficult but I can assure you that it will help you repair and improve your relationships with each other. Once you do it, it can cause your child to be sorry also and realize things. They might also be sorry to their siblings when they are in an argument. And if in case that your child asks for your advice on how they can say sorry with each other, I can give you lists here:
- Tell them to say “I’m sorry”
- Tell them they need to acknowledge exactly how they messed up like “I regret that I used unkind words that hurt you”
- Tell them that you will promise to behave next time.
- Follow up. Follow up with the children to see how they understand you and as well as how they are getting along with you now and with their siblings. It’s important that you’re reaching them out always so you’ll not be having any conflicts anymore.